Press: Actress Wants Fat-Shaming To Be Considered Hate Speech

“Body positivity” has been a rallying cry for many celebrities and women’s organizations that claim being overweight is not unhealthy. Now one celebrity in particular wants to make “fat-shaming” — remarks intended to make someone feel bad over their weight — to be considered “hate speech.”

Actress Jameela Jamil from “The Good Place” announced last week that she would start a company based on her Instagram account, “I Weigh,” which focuses on body positivity. She announced her new company in a tweet last Wednesday and said one of the company’s “main goals is to work towards a policy change that means this way of talking about people’s bodies is considered hate speech.”

“Fat-phobia is real, it is pervasive and prevalent and is damaging the mental health of millions,” she added.

The tweet was a response to one from another Twitter user who posted photos from a tabloid depicting two female celebrities in bathing suits with captions. In one photo, Rebel Wilson wears a one-piece bathing suit with the caption: “The stand-up comedian, 29, made a big splash in Pitch Perfect, and does the same when she hits the surf!”

One might not necessarily see this as cruel, but the comment is made among other photos mocking celebrities for their looks, including Tara Reid’s “botched surgery.”

Another photo posted by the account shows “Glee” actress Lea Michele in a bikini bending over with the caption: “The 28-year-old singer’s most famous role was on Glee, but her biggest rolls are…” the photo cuts off. The image includes a circle around her torso and the words “roll player.”

In another tweet, Jamil denounced a different tabloid image calling Queen Latifah a “beached whale,” according to the Huffington Post.

“She’s a self made multimillionaire. A success in music, hosting and acting. A business woman. An icon who came up in a time when black women were so entirely unwelcome in media. Especially one with curves,” Jamil tweeted. “This is 100 percent hate speech.”

“Hate speech” may be a bit extreme and not something that could be dealt with legally, but Jamil’s campaign and new company is coming from her own experiences in the industry. In follow-up tweets, she pointed out that she spent years overweight due to steroids she took for her asthma and lost the weight naturally over five or six years. During that time she dealt with attacks on her weight and the eating disorders she has suffered as a result. Even before that, she tweeted, she had been airbrushed by magazines to make her appear less ethnic (Jamil’s father is Indian and her mother is Pakistani).

Jamil also noted that her Instagram account and her new company are not about “making women feel more better” but about “encouraging people to see beyond their exterior and celebrate attributes that aren’t about their aesthetics.”

Source: The Daily Wire

Press: Jameela Jamil shares the “horror story” behind why she hates fad diet products so much

Jameela Jamil has gained a reputation as the unhelpful-bullsh*t police, ready to call out dangerous diet fads like slimming shakes and appetite suppressants.

And now The Good Place actress has revealed the reason she has waged war on these insidious weight-loss products: it’s personal.

The 32-year-old shared in a tweet that she had a “horror” experience with weight-loss products that can be bought over the internet as a teen.

“I used them as a teen and my digestive system, metabolism, thyroid and kidneys were damaged for over a decade,” she wrote.

“My mental health didn’t fare well either.”

Jameela shared her experience hoping to start a thread of “horror stories” about fad weight-loss products, which are often marketed to young women via Instagram.

Followers obliged, sharing awful run-ins with questionable products.

One woman described using appetite suppressants and something called “slimming mixture” that made her vomit.

She said, as a result, her weight is never stable and her metabolism and attitude towards her appearance are “f****d”.

Another shared her story of addiction to laxatives, which she still sees a therapist over.

Jameela has previously called out celebrities, like the Kardashians and Cardi B, who promote “detox teas” that merely act as laxatives.

“I hope all these celebrities all shit their pants in public, the way the poor women who buy this nonsense upon their recommendation do,” she wrote in a tweet.

She also lost it when Kim Kardashian shared an Instagram post promoting weight suppressant lollypops, describing her as a “terrible and toxic influence on young girls”.

But her targets are not limited celebrities – also calling out the publications that use photoshop to airbrush older women’s wrinkles out of existence, while keeping men’s intact.

Source: MamaMia

Press: Jameela Jamil Is in a Much Better Place Now

Press: Jameela Jamil Is in a Much Better Place Now

Here’s a partial list of the items I consumed while on a picnic with Jameela Jamil: egg salad, chicken salad, French bread, bacon, fruit salad, frittata, baked apples, and rice pudding with mango puree. The picnic was her suggestion, and she’d planned to do all the shopping, until it occurred to her that choosing someone else’s food might be “a dick move.” (I was excited about the prospect, personally.) We had arranged to meet outside Los Angeles’s Erewhon Market, but when I arrive, clutching a couple of furry pillows and a blanket, she texts me to come find her inside— she’ll be the one in the cheeseburger sweater.

Obviously, even if she weren’t wearing a garment featuring a flap of felt cheese under a bun, Jamil, 32, would be hard to miss. For one thing, she’s 5’10” in flats—and approximately seven feet tall in black platform booties and cut-offs. For another, she stars as philanthropist-socialite Tahani Al-Jamil on the hit NBC series The Good Place, Michael Schur’s hilarious existential comedy about the afterlife, a kind of sitcom spin on Sartre’s No Exit. She claims—in her self-deprecating English way—to be “an uncouth, disgusting, and disappointing person” in real life, but the distance between this statement and reality produces some cognitive dissonance. In person she is, in fact, disconcertingly lovely. She’s also an outspoken advocate for dismantling impossible beauty standards, so I feel bad mentioning it, but her beauty does kind of jump out at you. I mean, people stare.


As it turns out, it’s not the easiest thing in the world to have a picnic in the middle of L.A. on a Saturday morning, but the effort (long hike, wrong shoes) proves worth it when we reach Pan Pacific Park, with its dogs and kids and groups doing Zumba. Jamil loves it here. She appreciates how unselfconscious everybody is (except for the dude blasting music from his bike—he could stand to be a little more self-conscious). Here’s what she doesn’t love: bugs. Jamil recoils from anything that flies and was even hit by a car while trying to escape bees. Twice. Her proneness to accidents is epic, and her costar Ted Danson confirms this: “You don’t want to stand too close to her, because she’ll throw you under a bus to get away from a bee.”

The first time Jamil was hit by a car, she was 17. The accident damaged her spine, and she wasn’t sure if she’d walk again. She ended up spending a lot of time watching sitcoms in bed (Danson’s Cheers was a favorite). Upon recovering, she met a man at a pub who suggested she audition for a TV-hosting gig. She went expecting nothing but wound up being offered a role on a show called Music Zone. She held on to her day job teaching English to foreign students until her growing fame became a distraction. “It was a very weird time for everyone involved,” she says.

Years later, while Jamil was working as a DJ for BBC Radio 1, her asthma got so bad that she was prescribed steroids. “Steroids make you eat trees and planes and cars,” she says. “Anything you can find—you’re never not hungry, and I was on them for months and months and months.” She gained 75 pounds and “got roasted by the media, absolutely roasted,” she says. “There were paparazzi outside my house. Bear in mind, I’m a radio DJ.” Some suggested she sign a deal with a weight-loss company. Instead, she went to the House of Commons. “I spoke about the wording and the messaging in our tabloids, the way we treat women, and what that did to me as a child,” she says. Her activism led to a collaboration with the clothing brand Simply Be on a “burger-friendly” namesake collection. Then, after seeing an image of the Kardashians and Jenners that included each woman’s weight, Jamil started a movement on social media called “I Weigh.” “This is how women are taught to value themselves. In Kg. Grim,” she wrote in her Instagram Stories. She posted a selfie and listed what she gives weight to, things like “great friends” and “loving my job,” adding, “I like myself in spite of EVERYTHING I’ve been taught by the media to hate myself about.”

For the most part, Jamil grew up in London, with shorter stints in Pakistan and Spain. Her Indian father and Pakistani mother had “a very sad marriage,” Jamil says. “I had quite a lonesome childhood, and it’s taken me a long time to learn how to be around other people.” She attended a private girls’ school on scholarship and didn’t have a good time there, either. “I was a weird kid, to be fair,” she says. “I was deaf for a large portion of my childhood, so I used to have to stare at people to lip-read, and even when I got my hearing back [via surgery], I would still stare naturally. I was stare-y. And I am overly honest, always have been.”

From age 14 to 17, Jamil had an eating disorder. “I didn’t eat a meal for three years, and my period stopped,” she says. “Where did my teens go? Who took that from me? It was a lack of good messaging from women,” she says. “You had Kate Moss saying, ‘Nothing tastes as good as skinny feels.’ Or a woman would gain weight for a movie and then lose it for the Oscars, and everyone would be like, ‘Oh, thank God Renée [Zellweger] is back from her disgusting size eight in Bridget Jones’s Diary.’ Clap, clap, clap. ‘Congratulations, Renée!’ And because no one was ever criticizing or questioning it, I was like, ‘Oh, that’s the right way to think.’ Those were my role models.”


Jamil is on a mission to change this outdated mind-set, and one way she’s doing so is by refusing to be airbrushed. “I’m just trying to be okay with myself,” she says. “I think it’s insane if you’re okay with being airbrushed. We’ve been conned into thinking it’s a good thing to be made to look better than we actually do. It’s a direct insult: ‘You don’t look good enough as you are, so we’re gonna fix you.’ ”

She also takes issue with the expectation that women fit a homogeneous mold of perfection. “The patriarchy profits from conditioning women to only think about our exterior, to spend all our money and time obsessing over our aesthetic rather than building what’s inside,” Jamil says. “We allow ourselves to be abused by family, friends, strangers online, ourselves.” Society finds a wide variety of men attractive, “from Mark Ruffalo with his dad bod, to Adrien Brody to Leonardo DiCaprio to James Franco,” Jamil says. But then, with women, “it’s like we all have to look like this sex-doll, teenage version of Angelina Jolie, and everyone’s getting the same shit done to their face to look like that, and wearing enough makeup to look like a member of the Addams family. It looks great on a filtered picture on Instagram, but it looks insane in real life.” I nod and chew as she picks up steam, culminating in an assessment of the Kardashians as “unwitting double agents for the patriarchy.”

Jamil was famous—hounded-by-tabloids famous— in England for several years. She couldn’t travel and felt stunted. So when she had a breast cancer scare a few years ago, it prompted her to make some changes. She quit her BBC radio job, dumped her boyfriend, and moved to Los Angeles. People told her she was too old, too fat, and too ethnic to make it in Hollywood, but she knew it was time to move on. Besides, she was still a few years shy of 30.

She wanted to be a writer but had no contacts. She stayed at a terrible hotel and spent her days at a nearby restaurant. At one point, she met a Serbian lingerie model in need of a roommate. The woman helped her get her bearings and open a bank account. Her new flame, English singer-songwriter James Blake, whom she’d only known for four weeks at the time, flew out to visit and never left. Eventually, she found herself in a conference room with Hollywood power brokers insisting that she try out for The Good Place. The show was basically a state secret, and all Jamil knew ahead of the audition was that Schur wanted someone of her ethnicity but also English and irritating. “I believe I definitely check all three of those boxes,” she says with a laugh. Even so, she had low expectations, assuming he would find her to be “a shit actress,” but possibly likable enough to hire as a writer. When Schur met Jamil, he couldn’t believe she wasn’t already a star. “Her presence was undeniable, and her audition was sort of stunning,” he says. “The character was described as having a British accent, and she asked me before she read which specific accent I’d prefer—Oxford, royal family, East London, West London, and so on—and demonstrated each of them with flawless precision. The idea that she had never acted before seemed impossible.”


At this point, Jamil has undoubtedly hit her stride. The third season of The Good Place, she assures me, is the funniest ever. She also recently completed The New Age of Consent, a two-part documentary for the BBC, and she has a few more big- and small-screen surprise up her sleeve. But the first season of The Good Place, she admits, was hard for her to fully enjoy. “It was a very fun, very tense experience, but I was so scared,” she says. “We shot the finale last, so you literally walked away with a feeling of ending. I’d been quite numb throughout filming, so at the end, I thanked everyone and was just very cool and collected about everything that had happened for the last five months—bizarrely so, considering I was on the Universal film set, where they filmed Spartacus and Jurassic Park. And then, as I started walking off the set, I began sobbing uncontrollably, all the way to the gate, and it’s, like, a 20-minute journey in a golf cart.” Then she connects all the dots. “When I was 17, I had that car accident that hurt my back. Kids my age were at university, and my father had just left. I didn’t really have anyone to talk to, and literally every minute that I was awake, I was watching American sitcoms. And to know that that kid—who thought that she would never walk again, who felt so despondent—was now in an actual, real-life American sitcom, with Ted Danson, whom I used to bloody watch on Cheers, it just hit me like a ton of bricks.”

Jamil reaches for a container of rice pudding and digs in. We’ve returned to the subject of body positivity, which she says has been co-opted by corporations and is now being used as an excuse for women to continue to talk obsessively about their bodies. “It’s not that there’s anything wrong with it,” she says. “I just want more of a narrative that has nothing to do with our bodies.” Thus the impetus behind “I Weigh.” “It’s not a body-positive movement,” she says. “It’s a life-positive movement.”


Some progress has been made, Jamil acknowledges, “but there are still attempts to drag us back down. Being okay with yourself is the most amazing middle finger to everyone.” She’s quick to clarify, though, that caring about your looks is okay, too. “I wear a bit of makeup and short shorts and high platform boots sometimes,” she says. “But it’s an eighth of who I am. I’m not sitting here as an actress who sometimes endorses clothing lines being like, ‘Don’t care at all about the way you look.’ Just don’t make it everything. It’s a piece of the pie—not the whole fucking pie. Men are told to become so successful and smart that they get to date a Victoria’s Secret model. We’re told to become smart and successful and look like a Victoria’s Secret model. What is this bullshit extra homework?”

The older she gets, the more aware Jamil becomes of the way shaming works to keep women from stepping into their power. “I’ve realized that of all the things I wanted, most of them were available to me all along. I was just made to believe they weren’t.” Her book project, currently untitled, is a compendium of everything she wasn’t told. “I was not given the information that I needed as a young person to survive this tumultuous life, and all I want is to be the voice that I didn’t have, in the hopes that I might reach some people and remind them that we are exceptional, rounded creatures,” she says. The Time’s Up movement showed her how women working together “can get shit done,” and fast. “We just need to keep fighting,” she says. “More of us need to say, ‘You know what? I’m gonna love myself.’ We need to put scientists on the covers of more magazines—more variety, like there is for men. There needs to be less breaking women and selling to women, and more nourishing them. And then we’ll be great. We’ll be equal.”

This article originally appeared in the October 2018 issue of ELLE.

Source: Elle

Press/Video: Jameela Jamil on banning airbrushing, the Kardashians and her traumatic teens

Jameela Jamil does not want to be known as a ‘double agent of the patriarchy’. Star of Netflix’ The Good Place and former Radio 1 DJ, she is rallying against a culture of airbrushing, weight-loss and vanity. She chats to Krishnan about her latest ‘I Weigh’ campaign, being in Hollywood during the Me Too movement and why she thinks the Kardashians are a toxic influence on young girls.

Press: My Life: Jameela Jamil On Body Image, Disability And Why We Need More Diversity In The Media

When it comes to challenging the norm, Jameela Jamil is quite the pro.

As a kid, she suffered “a fair bit of bullying.” As a teenager, she was hit by a car and told she may never walk again. And as as adult, she became the first ever solo female presenter of Radio 1’s Official Chart.

Now, instead of sitting back and reveling in the fact that’s she’s totally “made it”, the 28-year-old is using her influence to champion equal rights for women and people with disabilities.

She’s even agreed to guest edit HuffPost UK Lifestyle for International Women’s Day.

“I’ve always been passionate about the concept of helping the underdog. It just doesn’t make sense to me as to what kind of person would take a huge platform and not use it to do something, to change something, to help people,” Jamil tells HuffPost UK Lifestyle.

“So many people are campaigning, fighting and even dying to make a statement in the name of humanity. These people have no voice that can be heard by many. I wish more celebrities would take the initiative to be that voice.

“How many fucking cars, shoes and private planes do you need? If you have time to get your pet rabbit its own Instagram account, you have time to at least tweet about something important.”

More than anything, Jamil wants her fellow celebs to encourage young people to think about the world they are growing up in, and challenge any injustice they see.

She herself did not have an easy childhood.

“I was fat, deaf and Indian, in a school that didn’t like fat, deaf Indians,” she says.

“I was very awkward, far too tall for my own good and constantly missing school because I was in and out of hospital having operations, including some big ones for my hearing. So I didn’t really stand a chance.”

Surprisingly, Jamil was completely disinterested in show business and fashion during her formative years.

“I was a total academic and very socially inept around my peers – constantly saying or doing the wrong thing,” she says.

“I didn’t really have a group of friends ’till I was 19, and I didn’t kiss anyone until I was 21.

“It was a bloody nightmare. I am the only woman I know who loves getting older because it’s another step away from my god awful teens.”

Despite all that, Jamil says her childhood has had a positive impact on her adult life as it was “incredibly character building.”

This ability to take a crappy situation and turn it into something to be proud of is what makes Jamil stand out from other celebrities.

At 17 years old, she was hit by a car and suffered damage to her spine. The accident left her unable to urinate alone for over a year and forced her to “navigate [her] way to 20 on a zimmerframe.”

But ever positive, Jamil says her experience of disability taught her to “never take another day for granted.”

“It gave me the kick up the arse and the reality check I needed. I had a very tough childhood and adolescence, including a fair bit of bullying at school and then caring for very mentally ill members of my family, and by 17 I had lost any love for life that I could muster up.

“But once I was faced with the reality of losing my liberty or even my life, I woke up and decided to fight. And I don’t think that fight will ever die in me again,” she says.

And Jamil certainly is fighting. At 28, she has become a spokesperson for disabled people across the country and has even set up her own company Why Not People?, which arranges ordinary gigs for disabled individuals.

“The pity is unbearable when you have a disability. You don’t need it, you don’t want it. You just want to get on with your life and shake off the week the way other people your age do,” she says.

“You want to join the conversation, be a part of a society you are entitled to join and just enjoy the rite of passage that you deserve.”

“But even in this day and age, and in such a developed country, we make little to no room for this huge portion of our public. – 11.8 million people to be exact.”

So how did Jamil go from unpopular teen to a model and one of the country’s most popular TV and radio presenters?

She says TV and music “saved [her] sanity” when she was recovering from the accident.

“I genuinely think watching television 24 hours a day is how I learned how to present. Entertainment saved my life during that time, and suddenly I started to take that whole world much more seriously,” she says.

Once she was able to walk again, Jamil lost the extra weight she had put on while bed-bound by walking everywhere.

“I’m not a member of a gym. I don’t work out. I just walk. I’m very lazy,” she jokes. “I’m so unfit I once got a stomach cramp during sex. That’s embarrassing isn’t it?”

Does she think there are more pressures surrounding body image on young girls today than there was for her growing up?

“I came into my teens around the era of heroin chic – the most disgusting of all disgusting media faux pas – so I think it’s been around a while, but the internet has put it on steroids,” she says.

“Not to mention the tsunami of gossip magazines drenching us in insecurity and lies. I remember girls at my school eating while standing on weighing scales to make sure they weren’t gaining weight, which is absolutely preposterous, but it happened.

“Now body image obsession amongst both men and women is at an all-time high. We are a generation obsessed. I mean, vampire facials and bum injections? Really?”

It doesn’t take a genius to figure out the key to tackling body image issues and promoting equality across all boards is seeing a diverse range of people celebrated in the media.

As Jamil puts it, “a lack of diversity feeds discrimination.”

“Why am I the only Indian presenter on mainstream youth entertainment in maybe the last 10 years?” she asks.

“It means that people of different races don’t have someone they can relate to. Even in small ways, like dark skinned girls wanting to see what make up looks like on a celebrity that isn’t porcelain white.

“Even in the most cosmopolitan cities in the world, it’s still hard to see accurate depictions of society on screen and in magazines.”

While she continues to tirelessly campaign, a recent cancer scare led to Jamil quitting the Radio1 Official Chart show to travel the world and work abroard – something she’s always wanted to do.

She seems like a woman who has her feet firmly on the ground, but is she really as together as she seems?

“There is a myth that fame makes your life perfect. If anything, money aside, it rips it to pieces. I think I could count the amount of well adjusted celebrities I’ve met… on one hand.

“Because these are just ordinary people, who are trying to work out who they are, but they have magnifying glass on them at all times, waiting for them to slip up. And worst of all, they are worshipped and congratulated constantly for doing things that aren’t actually that miraculous.

“Celebrities who project these perfect images of their lives are being irresponsible. It’s a lie. It’s a lie that is bought by billions of people who feel inferior because they buy into the falsehoods.

“This is why I write very honest columns about my struggles and many short comings as a young woman. To disembowl the the smoke and mirrors. To make sure that the people who are kind enough to take any interest in me, know I fuck up too, and that I am right there with them, sweating.”

Source: Huffington Post

Press: Jameela Jamil Launches Size Inclusive Clothing Line With Simply Be

Press: Jameela Jamil Launches Size Inclusive Clothing Line With Simply Be

Jameela Jamil is hoping to put an end to the term ‘plus size’ for good with the launch of her new fashion line.

The TV personality, radio presenter and model has designed a new collection with Simply Be, which will be the most size inclusive range available on the UK high street – with all items available in sizes ranging from 10 to 32.

The 11-piece collection has been designed to suit women of varying shapes and sizes, and includes 70s chic inspired dresses and sophisticated party separates.

Jamil revealed the inspiration for her collection came from a desire to stop women being defined by their size in the fashion world.

“I find it infuriating that in this industry, size 10 and above is defined as ‘plus size’ especially when the average dress size in the UK is a 16,” she said.

“We really shouldn’t be putting a label on size, fashion is for all and I think confidence and happiness is more important than dress labels.”

The 29-year-old also explained to OK magazine why it was important to her that her range was so size inclusive.

“There shouldn’t be a segregation of women over a size 16, it should just be all women who want to wear beautiful clothes,” she said.

Source: Huffington Post

Press: Jameela Jamil: ‘Married men will only break your heart’

Our columnist Jameela explains why if a man’s attached, he’s not to be trusted…

‘My wife just doesn’t understand me, I wish she was more like you…’ Other than, ‘We don’t need a condom – I can just pull out,’ these are just about some of the most dangerous words that can ever be strung together by a man and fed to a woman. Should you ever have that sentence tied around your neck, beware. More often than not, it will strangle you and leave you utterly breathless.

I realized this as my friend lay at the foot of my bed, collapsed in a heap of Kettle Chips, pleading with her phone to ring. She was desperate to know: had he left his wife yet? Did he even care? Or was it just a sex thing after all?

She didn’t wander into a happy marriage and plot its demise.

If you’ve ever been cheated on, it’s unlikely you have much sympathy for my friend’s situation. Even if you haven’t been cheated on, for that matter. But the thing is, she didn’t wander into a happy marriage and plot its demise. She just met a lovely, handsome man, who befriended her and then started to confide in her about his awful wife. How she’s cold, how they never have sex, how nothing he ever does is good enough and how they have nothing in common anymore. A heady cocktail of immediate attention and attraction, followed by a stomach punch of sensitivity and vulnerability.

I’ve almost been there myself. A few years ago, I fell in love with a man before realising he was married. First, he told me they were separated. Then he told me they weren’t separated – but that they hated each other and slept in separate beds. He said she was sleeping with her ex and was only using him for his money. My heart went out to this poor man. He was being bled dry by his evil wife, who had clearly tricked him into marriage! I believed him, but, thankfully, refused to have sex with him before he was divorced. I didn’t want him until he no longer belonged to someone else. And thank god, because three years later, they’re still together. In fact, they’ve just had baby number two and are, outwardly at least, ‘happily married.’ So I feel like maybe she wasn’t quite as bad as he made out? Maybe he just needed some attention? Maybe he’s just a dick.

Some people cheat because they want to, because they can, because it gives them a thrill, or because they just can’t do long-term relationships. I’m going to get controversial here and say that monogamy isn’t natural, especially not for men. It’s a concept society birthed a few hundred years ago, even though men’s DNA is busy telling them to spread the seed. From what I’ve seen, it’s only love and respect that manages to anchor their little downstairs friend.

Now I’m not saying all men are likely to cheat, or that all situations involving the unhappily married ones are the same. But in my experience, from watching friends and colleagues get involved in these complicated tangles, it’s almost always the same script, just with a different cast. Unless they are officially single and living apart from their former spouse, it’s just not good for your health or emotional well-being to get involved in any way.

Picture her lying in bed alone, not knowing where he is, or what he’s doing.

And what about the other woman in the triangle? No matter how awful he makes her out to be, until you get to know her, you have no idea. She may be a lovely person waiting at home for him, totally unaware she’s lost his interest, with a full heart and open arms. Picture her lying in bed alone, not knowing where he is, or what he’s doing. Think of that sinking feeling you get in your chest when you start to suspect the man you love is up to no good and please, don’t be the reason another woman feels that way. That kind of betrayal doesn’t bruise; it scars, and sometimes those scars never go away. If that woman finds out she’s been betrayed, she may go through the rest of her life suspicious and unhappy in love, constantly waiting for the rug to be pulled out from under her.

If you want someone, you have to be willing to wait for them.

And if you watch a man deceive his wife (especially if he does it well, over weeks, months or even years), you’ll never be able to forget what he’s capable of. If he pulled the wool over your eyes so spectacularly, how on earth can you ever be totally sure he won’t do the same to you?

If you want someone, you have to be willing to wait for them, and trust that what you have is real and strong enough for them to wait for you. If somebody jumps ship for you, that fact will always haunt you, because you’ll know they’re light on their feet. Spare yourself the paranoia and the pain, and walk away until the coast is clear. The bloodstains of another woman’s broken heart are very difficult to wash out. And frankly, you both deserve better.

Originally featured in Cosmopolitan’s May 2015 issue.

Source: Cosmopolitan

Press: ‘Why Not People’ Launch

Radio One DJ, Jameela Jamil tells Able about a new events company that specialises in making sure that there is full accessibility for a large number of disabled people at music venues.

What’s different about Why Not People? is that rather than have them at the side or on a platform, separated from their friends and family, they’ll be at the front, in the middle of all the action with their friends and family.

Who are you aiming to help?

We cater to people with different impairments, so that’s physical, hearing, sight and so on. For people with hearing impairments we even have SubPac technology which allows you to ‘feel’ the music.

It’s a very safe environment because as a members club we know about what you need and we look after you.

How do you integrate wheelchair users into the audience, rather than having them on a separate platform?

We have a seating structure; three seats and then a wheelchair – three seats and then a wheelchair – so you can bring up to three of your mates and two wheelchair users could be next to each other – it’s just collapsible seating basically. We’ve had the chief medical officer of the Paralympics oversee the whole thing.

If you look at Wembley Arena, there are 90,000 seats but out of those only 0.35% have disabled access – at Wembley Arena, one of the most developed buildings in our country! That’s a pretty strong reflection as to how negligent we’re being. We’re basically shutting out a huge portion of our society – 11.8 million people have a disability in this country and it seems embarrassing to me that businesses don’t open their doors to them.

If Wembley had more wheelchair spaces would they sell more tickets?

The point is that we’re still shutting out a huge portion of our society and its embarrassing how few people you see with wheelchairs or walking aids out and about in clubs, bars and restaurants and you just think: ‘well, it’s because there aren’t ramps or railings where there should be’. There is one disabled access toilet for every 10 non-disabled access toilets.

First of all, every toilet should be accessible – and obviously every so often you have places that are in the basement; I can understand that it’s very difficult, but people have to make the necessary changes.

Disabled people have a spending power of £80 billion – it doesn’t have to be a charity thing – it should just be something that businesses do in order to make money. Stop looking at people as a pity case – just look at them as relevant customers who are just looking to go somewhere to shake of the week.

Have you had to ‘sell’ this idea to venues? Have the figures helped you?

Yes, they really have and I think it’s also been about watching my best friend who has cerebral palsy, miss out socially so much because of his disability, because he’s treated so differently. There’s still this awkwardness around people with disability because they’re not seen socially on a day-to-day basis. I just think that that’s so embarrassing because I was disabled for a period of time before and I’m no different now to who I was then – I can just walk now, whereas I couldn’t walk then. I find it embarrassing that we’ve come so far with all of our technology and we can’t make these basic gestures.

Members of the scheme can buy tickets for themselves and three of their friends. So the choices are in their hands for a change…

Well, that was purely because I knew we’d have an amazing line-up (of artists doing accessible gigs) and I didn’t want all of the tickets to go immediately to people who didn’t have a disability. I wanted to make sure that the room was full of an equal proportion of people with disabilities; that was really important to me. So I like the fact that if you were the only one who had the chance to buy the tickets, that people with disabilities would be in control. That way with the members club, we’d be able to see who was coming and make sure that we’d be able to take care of them appropriately, according to their condition.

It looks like you’re also aiming for this to be a social community

Absolutely, the thing is that we want to eventually have our own kind of online presence when it comes to having chat rooms where you know it’s safe because the people would all be members and they could meet up at gigs.

We’re looking for it to be a whole social movement because we’d like to change the fact that it doesn’t feel as if disabled people are being integrated properly into society. That’s why we want them to be able to bring their mates along. Rather than it just be a room full of people with disabilities, we want to show that clubs can be full of variation and that it can be a great night out – and that its fun and everyone spends money and they go home and they’ve had a lovely time.

You’ve got a great line-up of artists wanting to play accessible gigs. How did you get Ed Sheeran and Coldplay involved?

I just called them and asked. Why wouldn’t they? Who wouldn’t?

Perhaps that’s it… It’s about asking why don’t you..?

Exactly. I didn’t need to shame anyone into it; everyone just thought: what a great idea. Why hasn’t it been done before? That was exciting for me – really nice. There was so much love from all of the artists. I wanted to go for the biggest because I wanted to prove to other venues that haven’t bothered to make their places accessible that big artists do come and they do want to play to this audience and that this audience do want to come out and buy the tickets – so it’s way overdue.

Source: Able Magazine

Press/Video: Inside Jameela Jamil’s Christmas list…

Press/Video: Inside Jameela Jamil’s Christmas list…

With a little help from Pandora, Jameela has listed her ultimate festive wish list so there’ll be no sad faces around the tree this year

Christmas is just around the corner (the John Lewis advert has arrived, after all) which means the world and its wife are busy in the throws of organising all the important details to make this year the best it can be.

But radio DJ extraordinaire, Jameela Jamil, has gone one step further, making some very generous efforts to save her family and friends the trauma of working out what on earth to buy her. She’s used Pandora’s brilliant wishlist function to compile a list of all things Pandora she’d like to find under the tree this coming December 25th. GENIUS.

1) The PANDORA daisy stacking rings
2) Circus letters with fairy lights inside spelling out JAM
3) Small mp3 playing jukebox
4)A Lulu Guinness silver mirror lips clutch
5) A pair of Nicolas Kirkwood shoes
6) PANDORA feather necklace
7) A good Fuji mini Polaroid camera
8) Jake Gyllenhaal’s phone number
9) Matthew Williamson big pink and blue furry jacket
10) Are we allowed to ask for people? If we are allowed to ask for people, please can I have Lena Dunham? I promise to keep her carefully.

One of the people who will be especially relieved to read Jameela’s Christmas wishlist is her fellow presenter and pal Rick Edwards. Let’s face it, Jameela wouldn’t mince her words if he presented her with a less-than-impressive pair of Dad socks, would she?

Yeah, they’re not the best liars in the world, are they? Which is why it’s a super-brilliant idea to create your own wishlist. It’s simple: head to this nifty section of the Pandora site, sign up, browse the site to see which stacking rings, charms and other Pandora beauties you’d like to unwrap this year, pop them into a nice list, share them on social media or via email with all those loved ones who are planning to treat you this Christmas, and just like magic: it’s a happy Crimbo all round.

And if Pandora weren’t doing enough for you this Christmas, they’re also playing Santa themselves with an unmissable competition. Once you’ve signed up to the PANDORA Club, created and then shared your wishlist, you’ll automatically be entered into the #PANDORAwishes competition where you could win a £500 gift card to spend on Pandora goodies, as well as one of three ultimate wishes, one of which comes straight from Jameela’s own Christmas list. Yeah, AMAZING, right?

Source: Cosmopolitan

Press: Jameela Jamil on nailing the perfect manicure

Press: Jameela Jamil on nailing the perfect manicure

The face of the new Elegant Touch Express Nails, presenter Jameela Jamil, has a refreshing approach to being a brand ambassador. Here she tells Cosmo’s Online Beauty Editor that beauty is all about expressing yourself, NOT about must-haves.

Ever true-to-herself Jameela Jamil is a loud-and-proud feminist, and you don’t often see her putting her name, or face, to commercial products. But with her stunning features, model stature and confident signature style you can see why she’d sell them. “I’m always quite sceptical because I get approached by brands quite a lot and I don’t want to put my name to something that will fail young women,” she says.

So what was different about Elegant Touch? The media star has just got a gig fronting their new Express Nails collection. Yes, stick-on nails. “I was always very anti stick-on nails because my association with them is hooker nails! You know, square nails looking like Wolverine’s cousin, and I wonder ‘how do you go to the loo?’ – but these are natural and really beautiful.”

“I looked at the collection – it was as if they designed it for me. They didn’t, but it’s everything I wanted. They’re quirky, fun, edgy, a bit bold. They can encourage a woman who doesn’t incorporate a lot of colour into her wardrobe to start playing with colour and patterns and to have a bit of extra personality in what she wears without having to commit to a new dress or outfit. They’re an accessory that don’t care how old you are, how tall you are, what size you are or what your style is. They’re non-discriminating.” Well we never thought of nail products in that way but she’s right. Plus at £7.99 a pack they’re very affordable, and an easy way to accessorise if you’re not clothing-confident.

“I didn’t know anything about fashion when I joined the industry. I went from having three tracksuits to landing Alexa Chung’s position – the style icon of Britain! I think nail colour was how I started to experience. Then jewellery, then bags and shoes and finally my clothes. Accessories are a safe, non-committal way to start.”

And being stick-on and flick-off these nails seem pretty easy for accessory addicts to match to their moods, and perfect for commitment-phobes – which Jameela admits to being – as well as “the biggest sinner when it comes to the mini cab manicure”.

“They’re really quick. They’re really comfortable. They are convenient. What’s nice as well is that don’t damage your nails at all. I tried acrylics once and they ruined my nails, it took me six months to grow them out.”

But it seems these temporary adornments are the furthest Jameela will go in experimenting with her beauty look. “I get a lock of stick for the fact that I don’t change up my hair and makeup, but I’m a broadcaster not a model. I encourage women to do what they want to do. You know those two words ‘must-have’, I think they’re really unhealthy. Of course its business but it creates a panic that you have to have something otherwise you’re not good enough. I learnt that the hard way when I got some pleather crocodile flares! Topshop said they were must-have! You have to dress for your shape, your taste and your skin colour.” Wise words, Ms Jamil.

Well we LOVE her signature style, with the quirky star sticker on her face. “They’re from Rymans, I used to be a teacher and had lots of gold stars hanging around. I had to interview Russell Brand and I had the worst spots at the time and I thought if I put stickers on my face it would distract. And it worked! My T4 producer said it looked ridiculous and to never do it again and to spite him I did it for a year and then it kinda caught on.”

So is it true she ALWAYS does her own hair and makeup? Yes. “I always do my own makeup. I’m not really into preening. I cut my own hair because I don’t want to be in the salon for two hours. A spa is my idea of a hostage situation – it turns into Prison Break, I’m there in my dressing gown trying to find an exit.”

Although she presumes no one would want a masterclass in her makeup, upon request she explains her eyeliner technique: “I use Bobbi Brown or Maybelline Gel. I cover the line of my eye first, do the centre bit, then I use a really thin brush and layer to make it thicker. I do the inside and outside afterwards. Really slowly, then a millimetre each side and another millimetre each side and keep doing that until they’re completely even. My eyes are naturally uneven – like an orangutan’s tits, but I fake it with eyeliner!”

Well if that’s not self-expression, we don’t know what is.

Source: Cosmopolitan

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